Sorry I'm Late, I didn't want to come
January 19, 2021
Let Value be the basis of your decision!
A dear friend recently gave me a bag for my birthday that said…Sorry I’m late, I didn’t want to come. It was hysterically funny but in actuality it started to make me think. How often do I feel this way and never truly deal with it?
Since we are starting a new year, I want to be sure that what is happening in my life is beneficial to me. What I want to concentrate on is the Value I am getting out of those things that I allow into my life and calendar. I feel a lot of this is familiar to many of you. Too many times we get busy with things that just are time demands on our schedule and truly do not add value. I get it that there are things that are sometimes out of our control, but not all of it is out of our control.
Time is money. We can’t make time, buy time, create time, but we can command time. Stop and think of those things in your life that you DO have control over. Wouldn’t it be great if you take into consideration the things you have control over and put them into your schedule to benefit YOU! Trust me you are worthy of that. It may seem a little selfish at first, but if you are adding value to your life the rewards will be amazing.
Challenge:
• Write down 5 things that add value to your life
• Put an action plan in place to add these into your life/calendar
• Make this a habit, especially when you are feeling overwhelmed
• Rinse and Repeat
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I used to think that meditation was just a silly thing to do and didn’t really help until I actually gave meditation a try. It was a big adjustment at first because I found my thoughts distracted, and I was unable to just focus. The key came when I just decided to sit quietly with my eyes closed and just breathed. I gave myself 10 slow deep breaths and blowing the air out slowly as a starter. I figured if I couldn’t just take time to take 10 breaths I was too busy. What I discovered was even just taking the time to breathe deeply in quiet solitude was very beneficial. Here are the benefits I personally received by just allowing myself to sit and take 10 deep breaths. • A sense of relaxation • Calm • Refocus • Reduced stress It takes just a short amount of time to take 10 deep breaths. Trust me you are worth it. If you can’t take the time to go through a guided meditation don’t punish yourself. Give yourself the gift of 10 deep breaths and you will experience a great benefit personally and physically.

“It usually takes me more than three weeks to prepare a good impromptu speech.” Mark Twain Being called to speak on demand is very scary for most people. Whether it is for work, in a meeting, or faced with just introducing yourself to others there are ways you can prepare for these situations and turn them into opportunities rather than a death sentence. An unprepared speaker will generally be faced with the following symptoms: • Your brain freezes • You begin to mumble or ramble • You appear as a deer-in-the-headlights • You are unable to speak in full logical sentences Trust me I have been there, however, I soon realized the value of the impromptu speech aka: • Speaking off the cuff • Spur of the moment speaking • Extemporaneous speaking With a lot of work and practice I learned the following tips that will definitely benefit your impromptu speaking. If you are surprisingly asked to speak at the last moment, here are a few tips to get you through: • Speak confidently – you will not die • Focus on your audience • Remember less is more – avoid the ramble • Have a structure to what you are delivering: o Past/present/future o Cause/effect/remedy o Before/during/after o A story that you have that is relatable and has great impact • Talk conversationally, slowly and with purpose If you can get any communication training that includes impromptu speaking definitely go for it. The value of this talent will set you a level above the rest, will instill confidence, and make you a better communicator and leader. #speaking

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